Showing posts with label PARENTING. Show all posts
Showing posts with label PARENTING. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Yesterday...

Yesterday was a long day.
A sick kid home from school, who I wished I had sent to school half way through the day.
Another kid so happy and wound up she was about to burst!
And me, a tired, impatient, anxious, trying to be sympathetic but failing, mom.

Today I am thankful for a new day.
Thankful that every day is not like yesterday.
Thankful that we are mostly all feeling better today.
And thankful that I can spend time with this little cutie every day!

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Singing With Daddy

I remember sitting in church 5-6 years ago watching our friend Roger, singing a song with his 20 something daughter Laura as she sat at the piano.
I remember getting teary eyed as I listened to them sing together.
It was evident they had that special father/daughter bond.

I began to think about Travis and our only daughter at that time, Addison. 
I thought about the wonderful relationship I have with my father. 
And how I hoped they would someday have that special father/daughter relationship that I have been blessed to have. 

And then I thought how awesome it would be to someday see Travis and our daughter up on stage together like Roger and Laura. 

Last week at our church Christmas program, Addison and Travis sang together for the first time. 
It made me so happy to see them up there together!

Monday, June 4, 2012

For Sale

Addison got in trouble tonight and was sent to her room. While there, she spent some time writing out her feelings...

Friday, August 26, 2011

Thoughts About School

Each day this week, I have found myself wondering...
  • What is Addison doing right now?  Maybe it's the teacher in me, but I'm so curious as to what her schedule is like for the day...when do they go to recess and lunch, how often do they have music and PE, when does she switch classrooms and see the other teacher, etc, etc......
  • Is she making new friends?  Does she have someone to play with at recess?  Who are the kids that sit at her table?  Are they nice to her?  Is she nice to them?
  • What are her teachers like? 
  • Is she remembering to be polite, say please/thank you, help others, be kind to everyone, obey, etc.
  • Is she eating her lunch?  Does she have enough time to eat?
  • Have we prepared her well enough?  Is she remembering what we have taught her here at home?
I have spent a lot of time praying for her this week!  Most importantly, I've prayed that she would glorify God in everything she does at school and that she would feel God's presence with her throughout the day.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

It's Happened to All of Us

It happened.  Not something I wanted to happen, but it did.  Addison threw a big crying fit in church on Sunday.  Unfortunately, we don't sit at the back of the church either!  Nope, right up in the front behind all the youth where everyone could see us.  It started right after we sat down during the first song.  She asked if she could go to the children's church room and play with one of her friends who was there with his mom.  I said no, and oh boy did the tears begin to flow.  And then the "but why mom?"  And then the crying escalated to sobbing very loudly, which then became screaming and crying.  And then the song stopped, which meant it was time to go.  She walked out in front of me, sobbing the whole way.  Thank goodness I didn't have to drag her kicking and screaming!  We went to a classroom and shut the door.  I was not happy.  She was begging for daddy (seems funny to me because if he would've come with us, she probably would've been in more trouble!)  After she finally got herself together, we headed back into church.  Thankfully, she was very well behaved the rest of the service.  I thought it was cute that after the service, an experienced mom of four came up to me and said, "we've all been there."  It's so true, whether it was in church, the grocery store, in a restaurant or any other public place, we've all had moments with our kids that left us feeling frustrated and embarrassed.  I was just hoping that my moment wouldn't be in church!  Oh well, now you all know that the youth pastors kid is completely normal!!

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Thoughts at the Bottom of a Beanstalk

Once upon a time there was a little boy named Jack who was about to climb his very first beanstalk.  He had a fresh haircut and a brand-new book bag.  Even though his friends in the neighborhood had climbed this same beanstalk almost every day last year, this was Jack's first day and he was a little nervous.  So was his mother.  Early in the morning she brought him to the foot of the beanstalk.  She talked encouragingly to Jack about all the fun he would have that day and how nice his giant would be.  She reassured him that she would be back to pick him up at the end of the day.

For a moment they stood together, silently holding hands, gazing up at the beanstalk.  To Jack it seemed much bigger than it had when his mother had pointed it out on the way to the store last week.  His mother thought it looked big too.  She swallowed.  Maybe she should have held Jack out a year...

Jack's mother straightened his shirt one last time, patted his shoulder and smiled down at him.  She promised to stay and wave while he started climbing.  Jack didn't say a word.  He walked forward, grabbed a low-growing stem and slowly pulled himself up to the first leaf.  He balanced there for a moment and then climbed more eagerly to the second leaf, then to the third and soon he had vanished into a high tangle of leaves and stems with never a backward glance at his mother.

She stood alone at the bottom of the beanstalk, gazing up at the spot where Jack had disappeared.  There was no rustle, no movement, no sound to indicate that he was anywhere inside.  "Sometimes," she thought, "It's harder to be the one who waves good-bye than it is to be the one who climbs the beanstalk."  She wondered how Jack would do.  Would he miss her?  How would he behave?  Did his giant understand that little boys sometimes act silly when they felt unsure?  She fought down an urge to spring up the stalk after Jack and maybe duck behind a bean to take a peek at how he was doing.  "I'd better not.  What if he saw me?"

She knew Jack was really old enough to handle this on his own.  She reminded herself that, after all, this was thought to be an excellent beanstalk and that everyone said his giant was not only kind but had outstanding qualifications.  "It's not so much that I'm worried about him," she thought, rubbing the back of her neck.  "It's just that he's growing up and I am going to miss him."

Jack's mother turned to leave.  "Jack's going to have a lot of bigger beanstalks to climb in his life," she told herself.  "Today's the day he starts practicing for them...and today's the day I start practicing something too: Cheering him on and waving good-bye."

--Author Unknown
(Addison's teacher sent this home with the students on the first day of school.  Brought tears to my eyes!)

Monday, May 10, 2010

The Images of Mother

You've probably seen this before, but I read it and it made me laugh.  The 12 and 14 years were definitely me when I was that age.  However, now I'm at the 35 years of age (even though I'm NOT that age yet!) and I value my mother's opinion.  Sorry mom for those junior high years.  I'm sure my time will come as a mother! 

4 YEARS OF AGE - My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE - My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother doesn't know everything!
14 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother? She wouldn't have a clue.
16 YEARS OF AGE - Mother? She's so five minutes ago.
18 YEARS OF AGE - That old woman? She's way out of date!
25 YEARS OF AGE - Well, she might know a little bit about it!
35 YEARS OF AGE - Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE - Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE - Wish I could talk it over with Mom.

Monday, February 15, 2010

Allowance

Allowances. To do or not to do, that is the question. Growing up, I never got an allowance. It was expected in our home that everyone do their part. We had certain things we were expected to do because we were a part of the family. In turn, when there was something I needed, my parents usually got it for me. I agree with this way of thinking. Too often, I think kids expect to be paid or earn something for everything they do. They don't learn the value of doing something for someone without expecting anything in return.

I know some people who give their children allowances each week. Out of this allowance, they are expected to save some of it, give some of it as their tithe and use the rest however they like. I think this is an awesome way of teaching kids about tithing and it can start at such a young age. It is also a great way to teach them about saving and spending money. I also agree with this way of thinking.

Travis and I have talked about it before and see value in both ways. I've been thinking about it lately because I started using a "chore" chart with Addison and she loves getting stickers on it each day. She also loves to give her offering at church each week. This would be a perfect opportunity to give a small allowance if we wanted to.

I must also say that even though my parents didn't give us an allowance, they certainly taught us about tithing and were an example to me in their own personal giving. So, even if you don't give your children an allowance there are still ways you can teach them about tithing.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. What does your family do? Why did you decide to do it this way? Were you taught about tithing as a child?

Also, I saw this video a few months back of a 4 year old talking about tithing. Check it out, I thought it was good!

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

"We Painted the Walls"

Oh my goodness...what a morning! My friend brought her little girl over this morning to play with Addison while her other daughter went to the dentist. When she came back from the dentist, we were visiting for a few minutes while the 3 girls played together upstairs. Addison came and told me they were painting. I was confused at first because I didn't think we had any paint upstairs for them to get into, so I asked her what they were painting. "The walls." WHAT??!?! So I asked her what they were painting with. "Markers." WHAT??!!??!!! Okay, now it's time to go check it out. Sure enough...the walls, railings, ceiling, table and her doll house (which Addison was most concerned about) had writing all over them. I really wish I had taken a picture, but in the midst of the discipline, that didn't happen. It took about an hour and a half to clean it all up and I am now quite thankful for markers that are WASHABLE! Washable is a good thing! I think almost all of it came off (except for the writing that Addison did previously). Thankfully it was upstairs too where not very many people see.

As I was cleaning it up a lot of things came to my mind.
1. It's just a wall, a material thing. She could have done so much worse.
2. In about 20 years, when my girls have moved out and I'm missing them, I can go look at it and say "remember when...."
3. I'm so glad this happened at my house. I would feel so awful if my daughter did this at someone else's house. After I thought this, I immediately thought of my friend and how awful she must've felt so I called her later and told her again not to worry about it. We laughed at what they must've been thinking.
4. In about 10 years, I will be wishing that our problems were as simple as coloring on the wall rather than problems with a boy or friends at school.

In the meantime, Addison isn't allowed upstairs for awhile and she had to get a trash bag and throw away all her markers. (I'm not really going to throw them away, just trying to make a point!) And to my friend...Addison had a great time with your girls! Please bring them back again. Next time I'll try not to let my daughter be such a bad influence!

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Go to Sleep!

Addison had a nap this afternoon, so she's not wanting to go to sleep tonight. I peeked into her room a little bit ago and found her sitting on her floor playing with her library books. I startled her and after she jumped she said, "Can you please not tell dad?" Then she asked, "Could you please go away and not bother me anymore?" I went to check on her again a little later and she had closed her door all the way. When I tried to open it, I was only able to open it a crack because she had pulled her tub full of stuffed animals in front of the door and blocked it. Guess who got in trouble tonight?! It's currently 11:10pm and she's still in there talking and singing songs. This is why she doesn't take naps anymore!!

Friday, July 24, 2009

Walmart and Blowouts

It never fails that when we go to Walmart I usually end up needing to feed Mackenna at some point. So, I usually stay out in the van while Travis and Addison go in and start the shopping. I don't know what the deal is but every time I feed her in the car at Walmart, she has a huge blowout. (I've fed her many other times in the car and it hasn't happened.) Happened again today. Luckily, this time I thought ahead. I wrapped a blanket around her just in case. Thankfully it didn't end up all over me like it has the last several times! Maybe Mackenna just doesn't like Walmart!

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

That's Not Fair

Tonight as I was leaving the house, Addison asked where I was going. After I told her, she decided she wanted to come along. I told her no and she looked at me and said "that's not fair." I was caught a little off guard! First of all, where has she heard this before and what does she know about fairness? Can this already be starting, she's only 3 1/2?! So after she said this to me, I looked at her and said, "Sure it is. I'm your mommy and I deserve some time to myself once in awhile." She looked at me with a puzzled look on her face and was completely fine with my answer. She didn't even beg me to change my mind. Someday I'm sure it won't be that easy!

Friday, June 19, 2009

Father's Day Idea

It's probably too late to get this for Father's Day this year, but I thought I would share this book with you. It's called "A Father's Legacy" by J. Countryman. It is a journal made for father's to share their life story with their children in their own words. Each page asks a question (such as "What did you enjoy doing most as a child? Did you prefer doing it alone or with someone else?") and leaves space for them to write their answers. Travis received this as a gift a few years ago and to my surprise has almost finished it! We also bought one for our fathers' and grandfathers' with hope that they may fill them out. I even told my grandpa that he could just record his answers and I would then write them out for him. I think it will be something my daughters will cherish someday. They also have one for mothers called "A Mother's Legacy." I have one and need to get started filling it out!

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Do You Ever Wonder....

Do you ever wonder if anyone noticed something that you didn't notice until later? Like your fly being down or a big black spot on your front tooth. Well, today Addison, Mackenna and I went and ate lunch at the coffee shop. After we were done, we went to the grocery store. While I was in line at the grocery store, I looked down at Mackenna sitting in her car seat and noticed that she had yellow, dried poop on the insides of both of her feet. Gross!! The first thought that crossed my mind was how bad I felt that I hadn't noticed it when it happened and cleaned it up. The second thing I thought was "I wonder if anyone noticed it?" Not sure how it happened, but I wonder if anyone saw it and thought I was a terrible mother who doesn't take care of her baby?! I guess there could be worse!

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Mackenna's Baby Dedication

Today was a very special day for us. We had Mackenna dedicated at church this morning. It is our desire to raise Mackenna, and Addison too, in a Godly home and to teach them about Jesus. We pray that as parents we will set a good example for them both and that someday they will choose to have a personal relationship with Jesus. We were glad my parents were able to come and share in this special day with us. It was also great to spend Mother's Day with my mom! What a blessing it is to have such a wonderful mother and to be a mother to two wonderful little girls! I thought I would also post a couple of recent photos of Mackenna.

This one is my new favorite of the girls together!

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Excuse This House

Several days ago, when Travis got home from work, he mentioned how the kitchen was a mess. I told him I was sorry, but that I had chosen to play outside with Addison instead of cleaning the kitchen. I was happy when he told me how glad he was that I had spent time with her rather than worrying about the house. This got me thinking about a poem I read on my friend Kim's blog a while back. It pretty much sums up how I'm feeling right now...like my house is a mess, but I'd rather spend time with my children.

~ Excuse This House ~

Some houses hide the fact that children live there,
Ours boasts of it quite openly, the signs are everywhere.
For smears are on the windows, tiny smudges on the doors,
I should apologize I guess, for toys strewn on the floor.

But I sat down with the children,
and we played and laughed and read.
Even though the doorbell doesn’t shine,
their eyes will shine instead.
At times I’m forced to choose,
the one job or the other,
I want to be a housewife, but first
I’ll be a Mother.

Author Unknown

Jesus...

Tonight after Addison went to bed, Travis was walking by her room and heard her talking so he stopped to listen. She was out of her bed and standing by the door talking to her doll. All of a sudden she opened her door and was very shocked to see daddy standing there. He asked her why she was out of bed and she said "uhhhhhh, I needed to ask you something." So Travis asked her what it was and she said, "uhhhhhhhhh, Jesus." I guess when she knows she's been caught she thinks the safest answer is Jesus. Maybe then she won't get in trouble!

Monday, April 6, 2009

What a Day!

Do you ever have one of those days where you just feel like crying? And sometimes you're not even sure why you're crying! (Hopefully I'm not the only one!) Well, I had one of those days today and I did cry! Sometimes being a mom is really difficult. It just felt like things were off today. I felt like I was running from one thing to the next and didn't have time for anything in between and my 3 year old was testing my patience all day long. It really probably wasn't that bad, it just felt like it. I took Mackenna to her one month checkup this afternoon and on the way home (in the peace and quiet of the car) I spent some time praying, asking God to give me patience and wisdom in being a mommy. I also spent time thinking of all the things I have to be thankful for - a healthy baby, a good doctor appointment, two wonderful daughters, that my husband is such a great help to me... I'm also thankful that God is always with me, during the good days and the not so good days.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

One Month Old

It's hard to believe Mackenna is already a month old! I thought it went fast with Addison, but this time it's going even faster. (A good reminder for me to enjoy both of my girls because before I know it they'll be all grown up.) Mackenna is doing well. She's a pretty happy baby most of the time. We do think she has a very mild case of colic, but it seems to be getting better these last few days. Thank goodness for those gas drops which seem to help. We've been very thankful that she's been sleeping well at night. I'm also happy to report that nursing is going so much better this time around. I had so many problems with Addison and wasn't looking forward to it, but so far it's gone well. Now that we're back into somewhat of a routine, we're starting to get out more and are doing things again. It sure feels good to get out of the house!